Are prostitutes the victims or is societies view the victim?

For some bizarre and inexplicable reason, I have never wholly accepted the fact that I am a victim! In spite of the fact that society would say I am one. In spite of the fact that my contemporaries would say I am one.Even in spite of the fact that my colleagues or people who love and know me would say I am one.I have never felt it within me.I am not a fool who has delusions about myself. I listen, I read and I absorb others ideas and views about life; Whether it be philosophy, science, religion or politics.Yet throughout all these journeys of ideas and ideals, have found only a mere shadow that might indicate who I truly am as a prostitute and where my place is in the vastness of others reality.Social and humanitarian studies show me the history of prostitution from a very distanced prospective. Religion just makes me feel like a pariah and unless I `reform`, I can never be accepted nor respected. Politics make me feel like a criminal carbuncle on the face of humanity.Whilst philosophy are the musing of the limited ideas and beliefs around the sexual personae.All these perspectives only serve to make me feel like I have fallen into the cracks between various ideologies.I am isolated in a world of limited imagination.In society as a whole, it is accepted that to have family, friends and various other relationships is a healthy and communal thing to do. Anybody who denies themselves these relationships would be viewed with suspicion. Yet because I am a prostitute society itself denies me free access to what others take for granted. If I have a boyfriend or husband, he is in danger of being branded a pimp. If my family accept my profession, they are seen to wear the same label and face the same prejudices as myself. Any sons or daughters face the same disgrace. My friends are limited to others that share the same line of work. My occupation feels like a contagious disease. My intelligence and wisdom is kept from others. My seclusion is complete!I feel that I am the very symbol of humanities fear of its own sexual dysfunctions.Sexual dysfunction is the only way I can honestly describe a society that still has a grave attitude and lack of self-awareness about sexual behaviour intrinsic to all.Paedophilia and all forms of sexual offending is of significant concern to all societies, yet we still repress the views of women who sit in the closest position to these `offenders`!The reasons why human beings can hurt or kill on this level is lost.Only those who philosophise on an academic perspective or medical perspective are taken seriously.These `experts`, valuable as they maybe! Are formed from the rules set out in a concrete form by other academics. There was never any alliance during the forming of these `ideals` with those who actually dealt on a daily basis with sex and sexuality.The Jews have been stigmatised by society for thousands of years for the actions of a few viewed by the same amount. Cataclysmic effects followed the Jewish tribes for generations as a result of ignorance and hate.There is not one instance, but a hundred instances that one could bring to account on our behaviour to other tribes or societies, in the belief that `one is right`!Therefore the brand upon prostitutes has been as profound! Lately we have just begun to realise the mistakes that humanity has made in the past. Society has had to take another look at the way we perceive `life` and our duties to that life.Hence why so many have broken away from the religions that our fore parents held so dear.No longer satisfied with the rigid rules of past generations. Which may have been fine for the times, but knowledge, wisdom and love are energies that flow and bend with the rhythms of life and nature.The experiences of past creations should not be left on mankind’s dusty shelves, but moved forward blending with the continuing involvement of humankind in its entirety.To me it would be like painting a picture and never having red in your palette!For myself as a prostitute, I will never cease trying to get this point over.The idiosyncratic views of a few will not stem the tide of the inevitable.I hope within my lifetime to see the first prostitute take a stand for the profession. To be able to sit with the academics, the politicians, and religious leaders. Then discuss in a respectful way, the subject of sex.Not until then can I see a real chance of change for humanity. We already have in place the beginnings of metamorphosis. People who would at one time been imprisoned for their sexual beliefs are now in positions of power.The impatience I feel, as a prostitute, is the fact that those very people are not doing more for the rights of prostitutes! Not giving them the platform to be listened to with appreciation.My hope and appeal is that will occur soon. Soon enough to stop the age long witch-hunt of our fellow sisters and brothers.Written by,Lynne Tansey,Dominatrix, writer & artist.